Boomer+Attitude = Job

If you are a baby boomer and you have seen 50 come and go, very likely you think your chances of landing a really great job are very slim. And, there is no doubt that ageism is alive and ever present every where we turn. However, it may not be the perception of others that is preventing you from landing that great job, it might very well be your perception of yourself that is stopping you. This writer believes that it isn't your age that might be the problem, but your attitude.

If your are on the backside of 50 and feel that you can't compete with your younger counterparts and have nothing to offer, consider this:

• You have life skills gained over years of experience in dealing with people and different situations. You know and value the importance of managing emotions at work, and dealing with co-workers that are difficult.
• You have a skill-set refined over several years of experience.
• You have, more than likely, experienced many of the interruptions and mishaps that spring up in a workplace, and are more able to handle the situation than your counter-parts who have not experienced similar situations.
• You have the knowledge to mentor and teach your younger co-workers.
• Your are probably much more flexible and not neccessarily agressively seeking to climb the ladder of command, thus eliminating feelings of competition amongst younger counterparts.

But obviously knowing all this and having confidence in your ability to be an asset to an employer isn't enough. You also have to project an aura of not only confidence, but energy, enthusiasm and knowledge. And then of course, you need a resume that not only reflects your skills and experience, but one that is more tailored to your age group. Yes, a one-size (or age) "fits -all" resume is not the ticket.

This writer is not implying that it is easy for job seekers that are 50+ to run out and land the job they want, but is saying that it is not entirely impossible, either. Stop listening to all the negative media and believing all the statics (where do all the statics really come from, anyway?), and start believing in yourself. Research and find the resources you need to help guide you through the job-seeking process for your age group. Use local resources, as well as online resources.

Some Online resources that cater to older job seekers are:

• AARP jobs: http://jobs.aarp.org/
• Seniors for Hire: http://www.seniors4hire.org/
• Workforce 50: http://www.workforce50.com/

The information shared here today is reflected in a guidebook this writer read and recommends. "Land The Job You Love", by Mary Eileen Williams, M.A.,NCC., gives a positive approach to finding a job at 50+. The book is at Amazon.com, and has strategies specific to 50+ job seekers, as well as action steps that help you refine your resume and cover letter to reflect your skills & experience and not your age. Mary Eileen Williams was the guest caller on Three Wise Girls Blog Talk Radio recently, and the response to her advice as been extremely positive.

With all the skills and experience you have, and all the resources offered to you, the number one thing you have in your possession, is your attitude. Bask in the glow of years of experience and skills, and what you can bring to the job. That "glow" won't go unnoticed by your interviewer.








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Need a Super Wife?

"I can wash out forty-four pairs of socks
And have them hangin out on the line
I can starch and iron two dozen shirts
Before you can count from one
to nine .... Cause I'm a woman ..... "

From Smokey Joe's Cafe

Do you ever feel overwhelmed when you walk in the door after you get home from an excruciatingly long work day? Do you see dirty dishes in your sink and your house is a total disaster area? You then walk into your bedroom to change into something more comfortable and you see that huge pile of laundry just calling your name? Do you think that if you don't take care of this yourself, it just will not get done? That's not necessarily the case.

Patty Marsh walked into her home feeling the very same frustration for years. Then Pattie decided to do something about her situation. She decided it was time to hire a "super wife". Even better, she decided to start her own company called ... of course ..."The Super Wife."

She not only solved own her time-management problem, and had much more quality time with her family, she turned her "solution" into a rapidly growing business.

The Super Wife is a personal assistant service that is custom built to meet individual needs. Patty's service allows you to eliminate that "2nd full time job" that we all come home to when our first job ends. Patty's service is located in the Triad area of North Carolina. However, do not be surprised to see "The Super Wife" coming your way in the near future.

You can find more information concerning Patty Marsh and "The Super Wife" at http://www.facebook.com/thesuperwife.

Join us on Thursday, April 22, at 12:00 pm noon-time, at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/threewisegirls, when the Three Wise Girls talk with Patty Marsh.

Patty will be sharing with us how she started up her company and her experiences thus far. She will also be sharing with us some of her money/time-saving tips that just may surprise you. Patty is also on a mission to make her breast cancer patient clients lives a little easier via the services she provides. Patty is the epitome of the super wife.

We welcome you to call in at 1-347-994-3835 and talk with Patty, as well as to join us in the chatroom. After all, this isn't an interview ... it's a conversation!

The Real "Man Who Stares At Goats"

"The Predator is 100% biodegradable. It's friendly to the earth,

and can hurt you in a 100 different ways."

George Clooney

Most people know who George Clooney is. And quite a few have seen one of his latest movies, "Men who stare at Goats". But, I doubt if all of those same people have heard of Peter Brusso .... yet. The number of people that do know him is growing in huge numbers.

Peter Brusso is actually the man who inspired, in part, the role played by George Clooney, in the movie. The tool George Clooney is seen brandishing in the movie was invented and designed by Peter Brusso.

Peter Brusso took up Martial arts as a young child of six, due to an incident that happened at school. From that point on, he was destined to become a tenacious fighter.

Peter used his martial skills and warrior spirit in surviving the jungles of Cambodia for 10 months, during the Vietnam Era.

After returning to civilian life, Peter obtained a formal education from California State University at Sacramento (CSUS), where he'd earn a Degree in Electrical and Electronic engineering. He used his training to invent equipment used on a national professional sports level, enabling him to become a patent holder six times over.

Even with all these accomplishments, Peter has always kept martial arts very close to his heart. He is a subject matter expert for the US Marine Corps Martial Arts Program, both as an artist and as a learning specialist.

He holds black belt status in Hapkido, Wing Chun (sash), Ninjutsu, machete fighting, knife fighting, weapon disarms, and close quarter battle. He is also one of the few-registered Ninja’s in America. He is also a filmmaker, and has written and produced several training films and movies on military history.

And ...he is currently in discussions with producers to create his very own reality show.

Join us at http://www. blogtalkradio.com/threewisegirls, Thursday, April 1, 2010 - noon EST - for an informative hour with this remarkable man. Debbie Barth is lead co-host this week with Dori DeCarlo and Linda Alexander commandeering the chatroom. We welcome you to call in at 347.994.3835 and talk with Peter. It's not an interview .... it's a conversation!

We invite you to visit Peter's websites at http://www.pdws.biz and http://www.awarriorsway.com.

Goodbye Natalie-Goodbye Splendour

"Venus make her fair, I love the girl with sunlight in her hair,

and take the brightest stars up in the skies, and place them in her eyes for me....."

Frankie Avalon Tribute to Natalie Wood

In November 1981, A beautiful legendary Hollywood star was lost forever. But the mystery behind Natalie Wood's death lingers on. Just when one thinks it's been closed forever as an accidental drowning, new information seems to surface.

Even the day of her death is debated. Most accounts state that Natalie died on November 29, while other accounts state she died November 28.

Marti Rulli and Dennis Davern are making it their mission to get the truth out into the open concerning the actual events leading up to her shocking and untimely death. Marti is the author of "Goodbye Natalie Goodbye Splendour" and Dennis was the boat captain onboard the Splendour at the time of Natalie's death.

In fact, Dennis was the only other person on board that night, along with Natalie, her husband and actor Robert Wagner, and actor Christopher Walken.

In the book, Marti and Dennis suggest that the police investigation was insufficient, that the parties involved received special treatment because of their celebrity status, and that a grave injustice occurred when Natalie's death was brushed aside as an accidental drowning.

There were many unanswered questions. Why were the bruises found on Natalie never recorded in the official autopsy? Why did Wagner wait to radio ashore that Natalie was missing from the boat? Why wouldn't he allow Dennis to use the boat light which would certainly had help in the immediate search?

"Goodbye Natalie Goodbye Splendour" is a detailed account of events that led to the mysterious death of Natalie Wood. It is a story told by a haunted witness, Dennis Davern. Those of us of a specific generation remember hearing about the death of Natalie, and may even remember the details that were given out by the media. Now it is time to hear the story from the man who was actually on board that night, and has been living with the guilt that he somehow failed Natalie by not coming forward at the time with what really happened.

Marti Rulli and Dennis Davern are so driven to finally get the truth out to the public, that they have created a petition to have the case reopened. For more information concerning the petition go to: www.gopetition.com/petitions/natalie-wood.html

For more about Marti Rulli: http://www.martirulli.blogspot.com/

"Goodbye Natalie Goodbye Splendour" is available at www.amazon.com and Barnes and Noble

Join us on Thursday, March 11, 2010, at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/threewisegirls at 12:00 pm EST., as we talk to both Marti and Dennis concerning what really happened prior to Natalie Wood's death, and how the truth to what happened took on a very distorted spin with the help of the misinformed media, bad police investigating, and Hollywood influence. We welcome you to become a part of the conversation by calling in at 347.994.3835.

In Self-Defense

If you're looking for trouble
You came to the right place
If you're looking for trouble
Just look right in my face

Elvis Presley

Every evening, it's the same old story on our local news station.

We are always hearing about people being abducted while getting into their car. Sadly, most are found later in a different location, some raped, most dead. The lucky ones are the ones that live through it.

We hear about people being robbed while retrieving money at an outside ATM machine.

We hear about someone being kidnapped, and later killed by an ex-spouse.

We hear about the young woman who awakes in the early morning hours to find someone standing over them, saying "don't scream or I'll kill you."

And remarkably, we all think that this only happens to other people.

According to the latest crime statistics at http://www.nationmaster.com/cat/cri-crime and http://www.fbi.gov/ucr/ucr.htm :

In 2008 there were 78,833 rapes reported in the nation.

75%-85% of rapes are committed without using a weapon.

68%-72% of attacks on women are committed by someone they know.

Over 50% of rapes or sexual assaults are not reported to police.

Of those rapes only 40.4% were cleared by arrest or exceptional means.

11.7% of clearance by arrest or exceptional means were under age of 18.

Unfortunately, I don't believe that there are any statistics pointing to all those who were victims, and who didn't think it could happen to them.

And, I don't think that for most, when doing a "things to do" list, taking a self-defense class is high on the list, if at all. And yet, it could be the most important thing that any of us do. Do you have it on your "to do" list? Excuse the pun ... but it couldn't hurt.

Join us on Thursday, February 18th at noon EST at www.blogtalkradio.com/threewisegirls, as we talk with Deva and Scott Hoffman, two leaders in self-defense training. Deva will be sharing her true-life experience with an attacker. Scott will share some of his experiences as a police officer for the last 22 years. The Hoffman's have vast experience in self-defense training and travel to group functions, as well as to large corporations, around the United States. Their website is http://www.nselfdefense.com/ in at 1-347-994-3835 and join in the conversation.

Teenage Gangs-The New Family Structure?

"Young men ... you have value.

You were not born to snatch the life

out of people you don't even know"

Rev. Ora Stearns-Smith

In July of 2007, Rev. Ora Stearns-Smith got the worst possible call a mother can received. Her son, Aric Jai-Shon Lexing, had become the victim of a teenage gang shooting, and had died from his injuries. Jai was not a gang member ... not then ...not ever. No, he was a young man who had said yes to someone he barely knew, who asked him for a ride home after a party. Apparently, the passenger was on a local gang's hit list. As Jai and his passenger pulled up and stopped the car, the shooting started and the gang got their target ... and took Jai's life as well. Ironically, Jai had just received his Masters in Criminal Justice just two months earlier in May, 2007, and was waiting to pursue a career in law enforcement. Sadly, the lives of everyone that Jai had touched would be changed forever.

Teenage gang-related statics are truly no more than best estimates. The obvious reasons are that it's not realistic to believe that people can go door-to-door and gather information any more than it is to think that there is an office where gangs and gang members go to register their activity.

According to one online statistical source and a 2009 estimate, there are approximately 24,500 gangs in the U.S, and one million gang members. It would be wonderful, since these are estimated numbers, if the statistics represented were overstated. My fear, however, is that they could actually be understated.

So, the obvious question is what should we, as a united front, do about this? We all do a lot of gasping, shaking our heads, and talking about it. But, what are we doing about it? And who is to blame for the increasing number of teenagers (and much younger) choosing gangs as their family. Is it the parents, the school system, movies, t.v, music, the lack of teenage role models (I mean the good kind), the law and lack of stricter penalties......or is it....etc...etc...and so on.

I don't pretend to have the answers. I am asking you. Who do you think is responsible for the increasing number of violent gangs in the U.S., and what do you think we should do about it?

I will take this a step further and ask you to join us next Thursday, January 28, 2010, at noon (12:00 pm EST) as we discuss this very topic in our segment of Teenage Gang Violence at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/threewisegirls. I encourage you to call in and talk with us at 1-347-994-3835. It's not an interview, it's a conversation, and I would like for you to be a part of it.

Just talking about the problem falls short of actually eliminating the problem. That will take action on everyone's part. But talking about it is a good beginning.

"I got a black magic woman
Got me so blind I can't see
That she's a black magic woman
She's tryin' to make a devil out of me"
Santana

I am delighted to say that 2010 has started out with a real "Bing Bang Boom" on our Three Wise Girls Show. Our show with Christophe Van Der Hogan-Landry took us into the very core of a social and political movement that is sweeping the country, led by this dynamic young man. Our second segment of the year, In Dreams, allowed us to talk about dream experiences with others who have had similar experiences, without the risk of being scoffed at.

And, there is no doubt our third show is going to be no less controversial, or sizzle with less "Bing Bang Boom".

There is a new feline species evolving, and it is preying on our innocent young men.

Now that I've got your attention, I'm talking about Cougars. No, not that kind. I'm talking about the 40+ year-old gorgeous single women out there that are ready for some good times with younger men, and don't feel like they have to apologize to anyone for it. Oh, and the "innocent young men" part, you didn't think I was serious, did you?

The word Cougar, as defined in this blog, conjures up visions of women running in packs, and hitting the bars in search of younger men with which to quench their thirsts. (In more ways than one.) Ah...but what about the ones in the office, the boardroom, your neighbor, or maybe even ... your friend? Cougars are global, and not confined to a specific region or country.

The truth is that there have always been older women who have had secret trysts with younger men. The thing is ... it wasn't as trendy as it is now. We have film stars, movies, and T.V. to thank for bringing this new form of entertainment to the forefront and making it downright trendy.

But back to real life, what about the young women out there? Are they growing resentful that these older and bolder women are splashing into their pool of "love princes"? Are the kids of these self-professed Cougars reading up on the emancipation laws of their states in hopes of changing their names and moving to another state where no one knows who their mother is? Is there a stone-faced mother out there this very moment opening the front door to find Junior standing there with a silly smile on his face, and his arm wrapped around the waist of a woman who just happened to graduate in the same senior class with her?

Who knows? But, I bet there is a 40+ beauty sitting in a bar, a restaurant, or maybe a private club, who doesn't care what the world thinks ...as she sits there smiling alluringly into the eyes of her adoring young suitor, while she leans over and whispers ..."the next round is on me. "