Saturday, July 31, 2010

What's The Point?

FaceBook has been around for a long time, but only till the last year, did it become one of my favorite social networks. Ever since FaceBook incorporated fan page options for it's members, I have become a huge fan. I can keep up with friends on my profile page, and share my business interests on my fan pages. I know there are those that are on FaceBook strictly to communicate with family only. And then there is that member-base that is interested in building a large friend or "like" following. This is the member-base I am addressing.

As I browse and read other profile and fan pages, I am sometimes very surprised, and wonder .... just what is the point.

One of the most common things I see, time after time, is the failure to put up a clear and distinct profile picture. I guess if one wants to maintain anonymity, and his/her friends know how to find the profile page among all the other profile pages with the same name, then I guess this works (still doubtful). If, on the other hand, one wants to build one's friend or "like" base, then a profile file picture is crucial. I'm one of those that will not accept a friend request without a profile picture. And, if there is no picture or logo on the fan page, then, well ....hasta la vista, baby.

Another thing that surprises me are the pages that will not allow it's members to interact. The pages are there solely for one-way communication. They are there to update and inform, I suppose, but ... apparently ... they are not interested in your feedback. Kind of reminds me of our family reunions. I just think that if you want build a relationship with your friends and prospective client base, there needs to be a little open communication.

Another thing that I find curious, is when people post a wall comment in question form, and then get upset when someone answers the question. I've actually read a response from a member asking a question which basically said, "this question was for a select few and your are not one of them." In reading the answers from the respondents, I'm not sure who the comment was directed at, or how he or she was suppose to know the question was for a select few.

In relationship to the aforementioned, I actually responded to a question someone had posed. I didn't know the answer off-hand, but considered this an opportunity to learn something new. I went online, and found the answer. I went back and posted my answer, along with a link to the page where I had found my information. Then someone else answered the question. The member who posed the question responded to the other member who had answered the question by saying something along the lines ..."Very good little Johnny, you go to the head of the class!" "I was looking for people who would not have to look up the answer to the question." Apparently the person who had asked the question was either born with an encyclopedia inside her head, or there really is something called a "smartpill" and is passed out to an elite few. Nevertheless, I was surprised that someone would ask a question to the masses in Facebook, and then make a negative comment concerning a member who took the time to read the question, and then took the time to find the answer and respond. I notice that there were few responses after that (one response wished her luck on finding the kind of people for which she was apparently looking.)

So, my bottom-line thought is .... if one is in FaceBook to build relationships and/or a client-based relationship, but one refuses to put up a profile picture or logo, one elects not to have member interaction, and one posts a comment and then is rude in addressing the respondents, then ... really .... what is the point?

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Is T.O. In The House?

I was reading an interesting article on Terrell Owens and the timeline of his antics (or in my own words .... self-destruction.) over the last few years. It brought to mind a question that was asked by one of our members in The question asked was whether or not a company could have too many superstars. I replied that I didn't believe there could ever be too many superstars .... just too many prima donnas. I felt that this article served as a good example of what I meant by my answer.

First, for all of the fans of Terrell Owens ... also known as "T.O." ... (and those that aren't family or on the payroll), my intention is not to bash T.O. I respect his ability as an athlete. And, according to the Sporting News NFL , he may very well be playing on a team this year, after all. I wish him, and which ever team signs him, much success. It's just that it's no secret that while he can be a super athlete, he is no superstar in the locker room. This fact has caused irreversible damage to a few teams. The same thing can, and does happen in the any work place.

What a "dream team" situation to have several superstars working on a project. What a disaster to have even one prima donna on the team.

This is the team member who blatantly boasts his/her importance on the team. This is the team member that blames everyone else when the project takes a wrong turn and takes the credit for all the right turns.

This is the person who points a finger, and brings unnecessary attention to the mistakes of other team members.

This is the team member who openly mocks his/her other team members.

This is the team member who makes rude remarks about others, and who starts rumors about his/her team members.

This is the team member who causes rifts between the other members.

This is the team member who thrives on, and demands attention above his/her other teammates.

This is the prima donna. Most all teams seem to have one.

And this is the person on the team that is absolutely brilliant at what he or she does. Therein lies the dilemma. Do you keep or take a chance with some one who is a well-known prima donna, at the risk of dividing your team and creating dissension, or do you move on without this person, in the hopes of finding someone who is not only a superstar at what he/she does, but a superstar who is a team player?

I don't think there is any easy answer, but the next time you see a team project falling apart before you very eyes, you might want to look around to see if there is a "T.O." in the house.

(c) 2010 Debbie Barth

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Three Wise Girls Talk With Sharyn Abbott

Sharyn Abbott is a charismatic business women who captivates her audience with genuine and sincere warmth. She continues, time and time again, to receive high accolades from her audiences as one of the most dynamic and compelling speakers of our time.

She has experienced a lifetime of entrepreneurial success, and her credentials include an extensive business consulting background. She is also a prolific writer, with a long list of popular books like Create Your Own Reality - The Ancient Wisdom, which is dedicated to help people live their life on purpose, Mixing it Up, her book that is designed to lead entrepreneurs towards success, J.O.B.S. Just Over Broke Syndrome for anyone who has ever thought about starting their own business, Making a List and Checking it Twice an inspirational guide to help singles choose a great mate and Be Your Own Boss Guide which is an in-depth look into finding the right business for the right personality and her first children's book, The Adventures of Master Pineapple.

She has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show where she was featured for her innovative concepts on positive communication techniques. She has been a guest on several local television shows throughout the Bay Area, as well as being a featured guest a syndicated radio show.

On Thursday, July 22, 2010 at 12:00 pm EST, Sharyn will join the Three Wise Girls on Blog Talk Radio. She will be discussing several key points including the break-through study of Physiognomy, facial recognition techniques to help build trusted communications rapidly. She will be sharing social media techniques to build one's client base, how to get your blog in the to 1% of all websites in the world, and talk about the 7 techniques to thrive in any economy.

Callers are welcome to call in and ask Sharyn questions at 1-347-994-3835. Listeners are also invited to the chatroom and to bring a link to a website containing a picture. She will be demonstrating how Physiognomy works.

This will be a power-packed hour with an amazing woman with an astounding background and body of work. The link to the website is Space is limited. Once again, the Three Wise Girls promise their audience a great show.

Thursday, July 8, 2010


I had to go to the DMV this week to renew my driver's license. While sitting there gazing at the traffic signs and rattling off what each sign meant, I had a thought ... (apparently, I can multi-task after all.)

Wouldn't it be great if there were traffic signs for life, that would visually pop up just at a pivotal moment in our every day life, as needed.

Wouldn't it be great if, just as you were about to say something that would make you look like a complete idiot in front of your peers, a stop sign would appear.

Wouldn't it be great if, just as you think you are the only one with a great idea to increase sales, a yield sign comes up, allowing someone else (for a change) to pass along his or her great idea.

Wouldn't it be great if, just as you are about to take that job, after falsely being told it will lead to future opportunities, a "Dead-In" yellow sign would appear.

Wouldn't it be great if, just when you had an overwhelming desire to tell your co-worker how unfairly you think you've been treated at work, how over-extended you feel, or how upset you are that "Law and Order" has been cancelled, a "No Dumping Allowed" sign pops up.

Wouldn't it be great if, when you are under deadlines causing you to skip meals, work late, loose sleep and endanger your health, a "Reduced Speed Ahead" sign would pop up to remind you to slow down and talk care of yourself.

On a personal note, I wished that several signs, such as "Proceed With Caution", "Exit", and "Warning," would have popped up before my first two marriages ... but that's another story.

The truth is that (for most people, I presume) warning signs shaped like traffic signs do not visually pop up out of thin air. We do, however, have internal signs ... call it a feeling, instinct, or just plain common sense ... that we can rely upon. Unfortunately, I think most heed these "silent and less visual signs" only when it is deemed convenient. My own experience is that the more I "listened" to those "feelings or instinct" (I use to say "inner voices", but people always looked at me rather strangely), the more confident I became in my decisions. Did I stop making bad decisions? Of course not, but I would like to think that I've made fewer than I did before.

Consequently, until I start seeing little visual traffic signs popping up in my head, I will rely on those "inner signs".

Back to the traffic signs. There is one sign that holds more meaning than all the other signs, for me. It is one that correctly defines where we are going in life (that has to be straight ahead.) There is no turning back. There truly are "NO U-Turns" in life. I wonder, when this sign was originally created, if anyone really realized how profound these words really were then, and now.

Sunday, July 4, 2010

Happy Birthday America - I Still Believe In You

Today is the fourth of July. It has been designated as America's "Independence Day".... as America's birthday. And, I still believe in you, America.

I still believe that you are still one of the great countries in the world. And while there are many, I do feel blessed to have been born in America.

I say that, while our country is in an economic crisis with a no viable sign of relief in the near future. I say that, while we are still fighting a huge oil spill that is endangering our wildlife, our waters, and our fishermen's livelihood. I say that even though our sons and daughters are still in foriegn lands waiting for the signal that they can finally put down their firing arms and come home. I say that, while there are immigration disputes and while the religious faith our country was originally founded and based upon is being attacked. I say that because I believe in America.

Just as those before us worked together, and believed that our country would get through the depression era of the 30s, World War I and II, the assination of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr, and then Robert F. Kennedy, and September 11, 2001, I believe that America will get through all the crisis that we are faced with today. Because, as Americans, that is what we, at the end of the day, have always done best.

So today America, I wish you a very Happy Birthday .... because, I stll believe in you.


In honor of Independence Day, I've included a video (above) in tribute of America. Ironically, the woman you hear singing is Canadian born Celine Dion. When I heard this the first time, it dawned on me. Doesn't matter where she is from, this song has never been sung more beautifully. Click to listen and view.